A little awareness for you all

My friend recently lent me a very good book called I Am an Emotional Creature by Eve Ensler. I read it in three hours, and each monologue was different yet equally powerful. However, the first passage I read was the one that resonated most: 

You Tell Me How To Be A Girl In 2010

Questions, doubt, ambiguity, and dissent
have somehow become very unmasculine.
Authoritarian maniacs are
premiers, czars, and presidents.
Each one is more righteous than the next.
Each town they bomb
each human they kill
is done for “humanitarian” purposes.

People don’t own the water in their own village
and they certainly don’t own the diamonds and gold.
Millions are forced to make dinner out of garbage and dust
while Russian businessmen and movie stars
are buying 500- million-euro villas on Côte Sud.

Bees have stopped making honey.
People are drilling in all the wrong places.
The U.S., Russia, Canada, Denmark, and Norway all claim the Arctic
but none of them seem to care that the polar bears are drowning.

They are fingerprinting, photographing our licenses and teeth.
Big Brother is now in our phones, our pods, our PCs.
Not one of us feels even a little safer.
New Age mental health providers turn
out to be former war torturers with beards.
And the pope in a dress showing off his
ermine trim and cuffs
is telling everyone that
people kissing people they love is the greatest evil.
A woman running for U.S. vice president
believes in creationism
but not global warming.

Why is everyone so much more afraid of sex
than SCUD missiles?
And who decided God wasn’t into pleasure?
And if the hetero nuclear family is so great
how come everyone is fleeing it
or paying their life savings just
to sit in a room with a stranger and cry about it?

The Iraq war cost nearly $3 trillion.
I can’t even count that high
but I know
that money could have
would have
ended poverty in general
which would have canceled terrorism.
How come we have money to kill
but no money to feed or heal?
How come we have money to destroy
but no money for art and schools?

The fundamentalists now have
billion- dollar private armies.
The Taliban is back
but never went away.
Women are burned, raped, bludgeoned, sold,
starved, and buried alive
and still don’t know they are the majority.

Water is clearly nearly running out
but even in the desert where there’s serious drought
the golf courses are green and lush
and the swimming pools are full of water
for the twelve rich people who might decide to come.

Special people adopt hand- picked babies in faraway lands.
Their flights there cost more
than the babies’ parents made
this year.
Why don’t they just give it to them?
Slavery is back
but never went away.
Just ask anyone who’s been whipped
how deep the legacy.
Six million dead in the Congo
and they never made the news,
and don’t tell me it doesn’t have
to do with color
and minerals.

Poor folks are dying first
From hurricanes
Shame
Tsunamis
Radiation
Pollution
Floods
And neglect.
Rich folks
just put up fancier super- electrified gates
on their private perfect cities.

Everyone’s having “benefits”
and throwing fancy parties
with lots of swag
so the rich people feel good about giving
away the tiny little bit of the whole lot they have.
But no one really wants to change anything.
If you really want it
you have to give something up
like everything
and then those that have, wouldn’t,
and then who would they be?
And that’s too complicated
so they write checks
and keep doing the same old things.
Selling change.
Making revolution profitable.
Corporations own everything anyway
even our hippie jeans, memory cells, and rain.
Why do so many women leaders look like Margaret Thatcher
and act even meaner?
Why doesn’t anyone remember anything?
And how come rich bad people
get paid lots of money to give speeches
and poor bad people are tortured
and in prisons?
Is there anyone in charge?
Or is this whole thing spinning out until it explodes
or dissolves?
And if there is something we can do
why aren’t we doing it?
What happened to fury?
What happened to accuracy
or accountability?
What happened to not showing off your wealth?
What happened to kindness?
What happened to teenagers rebelling
instead of buying and selling?
What happened to teenagers kissing
instead of blogging and dissing?
What happened to teenagers marching
and refusing
instead of exploiting and using?

I want to touch you in real time
not find you on YouTube,
I want to walk next to you in the mountains
not friend you on Facebook.
Give me one thing I can believe in
that isn’t a brand name.

I’m lonely.
I’m scared.
Girls younger than me are giving blowjobs
in homeroom
and they don’t even know it’s sex.
They just want to be popular
and get some respect.
Most girls my age are taking pills
or not getting out of bed
or eating or starving
or getting nose jobs or implants
or getting cut
or twittering away
or covering themselves
or desperate for a way
to be awake without faking
to be alive without freaking
to be serious
to be true
to even think of loving someone
when we’re already doomed.

You tell me how to be a girl in 2010

I say let’s go for it
if it’s all coming down.
I say let’s speak it
let’s fight it
let’s right it
there’s nothing to hold on to
if it’s already gone.
They left it to us.
It sucks but it’s true.
It’s you and me baby.

I really enjoyed this because it focuses on all issues while still emphasizing the importance of women’s rights.

I’ve noticed that many activists who advocate for human rights/the environment, and against the media/government will turn around to ridicule or ignore the idea of feminism. On the other hand, many feminists will tend to focus on mostly women’s rights issues, and let other just as important topics slip from their attention. I think this is a healthy medium. 

Hope you guys liked it. 

My Take on Naked Selfies

How many of you have stumbled across half-naked pictures of a woman on Facebook, or have that one girl on your friends list with a gallery that makes you wonder if she’s soliciting herself for porn? Pretty much everyone, I’m guessing. How many of you become infuriated when these pictures pop up on your Newsfeed and, out loud or in your head, begin calling the girl names such as slut or whore? We’re all guilty.

Now, I have been noticing quite a few half-naked, “erotic” photos of the same girl coming up on my home page because we have a few male mutual friends and she tags them in these pictures. I often scroll past it, or click the “I don’t want to see this” button, because really, guys, I don’t want to see it. But I also try my best not to pass judgment. The comments I read today on one picture ranged from compassionate words of concerned strangers, to hateful comments about the kind of person she is… based solely on the photos she posts.

Here’s my dilemma.

I, in no way, approve of a woman portraying herself as a sex-object, not because I don’t think that we should choose what to do with our bodies, but because male or female, the way we present ourselves is often reflective of how we will allow others to treat us. If you act like a sex object, that’s how people are going to perceive you. I also believe that photographing your body in such a way is done for one reason only: to seek male approval. To me, this is a sign of very low self-worth, and I don’t just mean when it comes to your appearance. Even from where I stand on the subject, would I ever call this girl worthless because of what she does with her body, or say nobody likes a slutty girl along with every troll (female and male) commenting on this girls post?

Absolutely fucking not.

What bothers me about this double-standard is that it’s one of the most problematic and least discussed topics when it comes to unfair gender-roles. I’m not even going to get into the fact that men are praised for expressing sexual freedom, and women are pressured to be ashamed of it, because any intelligent person can see that this is a ridiculous, dated concept. Why should we feel shame for having a lot of sex and enjoying it, other than the fact that doing so makes men angry?

I have so much animosity for the views supported by these comments, because the idea is completely hypocritical and ignorant. In person, I’ve noticed that the vast majority of males who’s opinions mirror this have one or more pictures of a lubed-up Playmate on their bedroom wall.

They criticize the women who post…let’s say questionable…pictures of themselves for free (God forbid, for free?!) on the internet as they simultaneously worship women that make more than a living wage by being nothing more than an object of sexual appeal.Young girls are assaulted with these images from every angle, images that receive positive reactions from their male peers. At an early age, we tell them, “This is what men want. This is what you’re supposed to be,” but then we put them down for listening?

Your worth is defined by your sexual appeal. But don’t demonstrate it freely. Then you’re a slut and are worthless. 

Said no sane person, ever.

More Feminist Facebook Problems

Today, I was browsing through one of my favorite pages on facebook, and came across a picture of a young female welder with a sign that read, “We need feminism because ‘who hired a stripper’ shouldn’t be the first thing said when I go to my welding job.”

Obviously, this post was flooded with comments, from both the anti-feminists and women who believe the definition of “equality” is “all men are sexist and women should have dominion over them.”

Normally, I skim through these comments and try my best to ignore the trolls. However, I somehow stumbled upon a comment that really stirred up the passionate feminist in me. It said, “Okay, so if we’re all equal, then can I punch my girlfriend if she says something really offensive, like I would with my guy friends?”

Here we go.

I cannot argue the fact that many women are smaller and therefore physically weaker than men, so I understand that physically, we are not equal. However, the ability to use brute force should have nothing to do with how certain people are treated in society. The fact that this guy used domestic abuse as an anti-feminist argument is exactly what I would expect from a stupid person.

The problem is that this is the third or fourth time I’ve heard this, and not just on the internet. I have been unpleasantly surprised to hear this come from one or more people that I have/had a close relationship with.

Here’s my solution: don’t hit your girlfriend. Don’t hit your male friends.

Don’t use violence for anything other than self-defense or the defense of another.

Really, people? How is that a difficult concept?

Feminism Is Stupid

All of you anti-feminists on my facebook are right. Feminism is stupid. You know what else is stupid? People who protest racism and gay-rights activists. The fact that straight white people have been at the top of the power pyramid for so long is unarguably because we are just naturally superior. Perhaps if you didn’t shamelessly flaunt your skin color and sexual orientation for all to see, people wouldn’t commit hate crimes. Logic, my friends. 

Three Natural Ways to Lighten Hair

For those with dirty blonde or light brown hair who want to lighten it but don’t want chemicals touching your hair.

I myself have dark blonde hair, which always gets darker in the winter. I never get it colored in fear of damaging it (and because I don’t like dark roots). Here are some natural ways to lighten your hair.

1. Honey

Honey seems to be good for everything. Mix it with a little conditioner, put on a shower cap, and leave it on overnight. Repeat this process about twice a week and you should notice your hair start to lighten. Honey contains a small amount of hydrogen peroxide, making it ideal for this use.

2. Chamomile

Brew a strong pot of chamomile tea and mix a little with your conditioner in an empty bottle. With the rest of the tea, wash your hair. Air dry it and sit in the sun if possible. If you want the effect to be noticeable, wash and condition with chamomile often.

3. Lemon juice

This is one of my personal favorites. All you have to do is put lemon juice and a little water in a spray bottle and apply it to strands of your hair. Then sit in the sun for a while. Do this every couple of days and you will have beautiful highlights.

Don’t be slutty…

Don’t be slutty, don’t have sex. But be sexy. If you’re too sexy though and you get raped, then that’s you’re own fault because you’re not actually supposed to listen to us about being sexy, even though we tell you your value is derived from how sexy you are. If you get into a position of power, we will assume that you used your sex appeal to get there and not your brains and we will mock you even though we told you the only thing that mattered was your sex appeal. Make yourself accessible to me, but holy shit stop being so desperate and needy. Don’t be a tease. If we want to have sex with you, don’t friendzone us, even though we just fucking told you not to have sex.

Sadly I don’t know who originally wrote this, but I like it.